Friday, April 12, 2013

Bullying- No One is Immune {Say No to Bullying Pledge & Giveaway}

This post is sponsored by TakePart

As a mom of three, I often look at my kids and wonder who they will become.

Will they be kind? Will they be honest? Will they make good choices when I am not around to remind them?

Will people be mean to them? Will they stand by and watch as their friends are treated unkindly? Will they stick up for their friends? Will their sweet personalities be squashed as they go out into the world that is sometimes filled with mean people?

I don't know the answers to these questions... but I worry about them a lot.

I have thought a lot about this post this week and how important this topic is... especially for parents and educators of little ones. Prevention can make a big difference.

The definition of bullying is the aggressive and repetitive imbalance of power used by one person to control another.

Bullying can be verbal, physical, and social. 

Bullying can be seen in homes, schools, friendships/social groups, in churches, on the internet, etc.

No one is immune... even little children.

Little children are weak and vulnerable, which makes them an easy target. We need to protect them and teach them to protect one another.

Why do kids bully other kids? 

  • Bullying can feel good and make kids feel powerful.
  • Bullying can be a way to express emotions or words that kids don't know how to communicate.
  • Bullying can make kids feel accepted or part of things.

My 5 yr old son has been bullied more than once. The saddest incident occurred at a neighborhood park where he was repeatedly called names over and over again by a boy that was older than he was. The boy also threw sand at him. I was distracted by my toddler and missed the interaction since it happened quickly. My 5 yr old wet his pants during the stressful interaction with this older child and came running over to let me know that he needed new clothes. He never mentioned the mean words or the sand... so we just packed up and went home. He was very upset on and off throughout the evening and I had no idea why and he wouldn't tell me. Later that night my husband sat down to play with him for awhile and while they played and talked my son brought the situation up and told his dad about it.

He just sobbed and sobbed. He didn't understand why anyone would be so mean... and he said there were other kids joining in too.

I felt so sad. 

I want him to be surrounded by people who uplift him and encourage him to be a better version of himself. I don't want him around people that tear him down.

I've thought a lot about this topic and simple things we can do. Over the next week or so I have several posts I want to share with you based on this topic of bullying... but for today I wanted to share four simple things you can do now to help prevent your child from being bullied. These aren't the only ways, but they are a great place to start.

4 Tips for Preventing Bullying

Teach them to choose good friends. 

Help them find friends that celebrate them and their talents. Having a network of good friends who are supportive and thoughtful will make them less likely to choose to spend time with kids who put them down.

Encourage them to be involved and learn new things.

Children who are involved in activities that they love will make new friends with similar interests. They will have fun and gain confidence which will protect them from bullying.  

Teach them to be good friends and support their friends.

Children can be taught good friendship skills from early ages. We spend time doing kind things for friends, supporting them in their activities, and discovering their talents. By focusing on being a good friend, kids build lifelong friendships. These friendships can protect them from bullying.

Teach kids to treat all people with respect and kindness.

Kids are always watching adults. We can teach kids to be kind and respectful through our examples. We can also teach kids to stick up for their friends (and others) and get help if they need it. By teaching them that all people are important and deserve respect and kindness, they will learn that no one deserves to be bullied and they will hopefully reach out and help if they see someone being treated unkindly.

Bullying needs to stop. I want to challenge you to educate your kids about bullying and start now to help prevent it.

Have you ever been bullied?
Has your child?
What other strategies have you used to help prevent bullying?

You can find more resources at Stop Bullying.

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  1. My kids are now home educated but while they were in there were two unpleasant things that happened. At the first school my adopted child was in she was pushed into a puddle by bigger boys who laughed. We were told, in front of my daughter she fell over. My daughter told my husband in floods of tears outside the school gate. Next day he told the teacher what she had said. Our adoption order was in process at this point, so legally the kids weren't quite ours. We assumed that the teachers hadn't seen. She said, 'We know, we are dealing with it and have informed social services.' But not us? 'Well, you are her foster carers.' No, we are there parents. Social services were amazing and we changed her school but the previous school maintains bullying never happens there.
    A friend of mine had a child in the second school was being bullied and the mum was encouraging her to tell the teacher. At parents evening she was told her child was a tell tale.
    We noticed that now the children are home ed'ed we don't see bullying, the children interact in a co-operative way and work things out together. I am sure it must happens in home ed situations but we haven't seen it. They have rows but that is different. It might be that they are all the sensitive kids who were removed from school for various reasons and know how he feels or that there are adults around with less children to focus on but it is very pleasant.
    i loathe bullying, I was bullied as a child and I will never be bullied again and have never stood by or ignored it as an adult. Here in the UK there are people that view it as part of growing up. I think that most children will bully or be bullied at some point but I think as adults we lead the way in showing how to do relationships better.

  2. I took the pledge :)

  3. What an important topic, lady! I am right there with you! Thanks!!!

  4. I took the pledge. It's so important to teach kids not to be passive bystanders watching the bully and the victim. This is the root to stopping bullying. For kids being bullied, self defense is great to boost their self confidence and stand down someone who is bigger than they are. I am a big fan of kids learning karate. It really helped my kids.

    Another thing. Bullying happens at all ages. Just the other day, when I went to pick up my 13-year-old at 9:30pm at night from a late soccer practice, a random woman called me a expletive because her large dog had jumped on me and I put up my knee and told the dog "off." I told her to control her dog and to, "Think about her word choice."

    Then, she walked about 200 feet away and yelled in front of 2 dozen parents, "I shouldn't have called you a XXX, I should have called you an x, y, z." (x, y, z being more expletives but now racially degrading.). I am Asian American. I am very small at 94 pounds and 4 feet 11 inches. But I train in kickboxing and boxing. So I ran up the 200 yards to confront her and she said, "Peace. I shouldn't have said that." A few more words were exchanged and then I walked away at the urging of a dad who advises me to forgive and forget.

    My point is that I wonder if she would have insulted me if I had been bigger or not Asian. I have no idea. But something inside me did not allow her to yell racially charged expletives to me in front of dozens of other people like I'm a passive victim. In standing up to her, I wanted her to know that she can't get with bad behavior.

    I hope she thinks twice before doing this again to someone else.

  5. I signed the pledge. I am in my last semester of grad school/internship for school counseling, and this has become such a problem, even in the little grades. Breaks my heart. Empathy needs to be taught directly as a skill, not just assumed that kids will either get it or not get it. I'm happy to see so many programs like these that create awareness for families and not just leave it up to the school.

  6. Signed the pledge.

  7. Bullying saddens me so much and I also worry so much about my own children. The world is such a scary and mean place. GREAT post. I proudly signed the pledge!

  8. I signed the pledge. We use the Molly Lou Mellon book at my daughter's school to address bullying. It is a great book!


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