Sue shared some simple tips to help parents coach children in social settings and help them move from the solitary play mode (or playing with adults mode) to playing cooperatively with other children.
Social Coaching Tips
For example. saying, "Do you see John and Sarah are playing superheroes. It looks like John is Batman and Sarah is Superman. They are taking turns jumping off the bench. What character could you be? What could you do?"
2. Approach friends (or new children) with your child. Ask if you can play. They most likely won't say no to an adult, right? Play with the group alongside your child for awhile and model for your child how to participate. Next time, prompt your child to ask if they can play.
3. Point out common interests/likes amongst the children. Be a little friend matchmaker. Help them notice their friend's similarities... sometimes little kids can be very oblivious.
4. Serve as a bridge between the children. For example, you could start building a tower with blocks. Invite each child to take turns adding on to the tower... all of a sudden they've gone from complete solitary play to moving towards cooperative play!
5. Gradually recede into the background once the children start interacting with one another. It is important to learn when to back off!
6. Give your child lots of opportunities for success by finding many ways for them to interact with peers.
I find that as I set up varied opportunities weekly for my son to interact with peers (1:1 playdates, small group playgroups, large group parties/preschool groups, meeting new friends at the park, etc.), he is more comfortable playing cooperatively and initiating play with new children.
Do you have any other tips you would add?
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